ambris:

Kind of a follow up my Valentine’s day post. Some advice I wanted to give out but totally forgot to.

Being single is frustrating, I know. But it’s important that you learn to love yourself first, as it’s impossible to be in a healthy relationship until you do. Modern culture puts forward this idea that a relationship partner completes you; and as someone who has lived a little, I can say that that exceedingly dysfunctional, and only leads to heartbreak. It’s prevalence in modern culture is why broken relationships are so prolific.

the truth is, having a partner is not everything. Case-in-point: A few years ago, I was in a relationship, and it was the most miserable time of my life. Today I am single, and I’m actually at my happiest.

And that happened because in the last few years I learned to love myself, and to be happy with what I could provide for myself. I am for the most part, emotionally self-sufficient. And that’s a way better place to be than to be completely dependent on someone.

Sure, I’d like a girlfriend; Being single has gotten a little frustrating, and having a partner is a nice plus. But I’m actually in no hurry, and I find I’m largely content focusing on just improving myself as a person. I may not always have a girlfriend. But I’ll always be with myself–so it’s important that like who I am, and strive to be better.

Just some life advice.