Tag: I don’t exactly plan to have kids

stephanoodle:

OH GOSH WHERE DO I BEGIN

Okay no but really. I just can’t tolerate them. I am absolutely terrified of ever being pregnant, and any person who has gotten pregnant and/or delivered a baby is a billion times braver than I. I could never give up my body to be an incubator. They’re loud, sticky, smelly beings that I just have no interest in being around, and certainly don’t want any of my own. I don’t want to have to spend the money on them or their “kindercrap” – I’d rather spend it on vacations, dates, and fun new stuff for me and JR to enjoy. I don’t want to give up my life to serve a tiny human that can’t do anything for itself.

I have never had a particular fondness of children and just kept wishing that I would never have any, and I made that point loud and clear. Of course people would pull the “but you were a kid yourself once, how can you say that, what if your parents felt the same way, ect”. Okay… I knew I was annoying when I was a kid and I hated it. And my parents actually DID feel that way – my dad was steralized 7 years before I was born, they didn’t want any more kids. But due to some crazy magic, I ended up here. They even tested my dad after they found out my mom was pregnant and he had absolutely no swimmers. And no, my mom did not cheat. Compare mine and my oldest sister’s one year photos and we look exactly alike – only difference is the 18 year gap between when the photos were taken. Not to mention that I take after my dad in a lot of ways (thick eyebrows WOOT).

It took a while for my parents to understand that they were never getting a grandchild out of me, but luckily I have 2 sisters who already both have 2 kids each. Any time I would mention that I was never having kids to them if it came up, they and anybody in the immediate area (AKA my family) would say that I’d change my mind when I was older, when I find the right person I’ll want to, that I’d have nobody to take care of me when I’m old, or that I was just being stupid and that my biological clock would take over and everything would be fine. Luckily I have had the same mindset since even I was a child (I never played with baby dolls or pretended to be “mommy”), the right person for me wouldn’t want kids either (and he doesn’t ♡), children are not a promise to have caretakers for you when you get old, and I know myself well enough to realize that even if those “urges” creep up (and they have) I just remember all of the stuff above and know that a child would be nothing but negative in my own life. Children are right for some people, but definitely not for me.

I do sincerely apologize for this being so long. I’ve been really hoping someone would ask this and finally got a chance to vent. XD